I had every faith that Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy would come around. It was just a matter of time. I have been saying that to everyone I came in contact with who was frustrated. I said “just have faith and hang in there.” See, there is justice sometimes!

The court said that the Federal Defense of Marriage Act, or DOMA, was unconstitutional and ruled against a provision that denied benefits to legally married gay couples. I learned alot about how this feels by being involved in the LGBT community through my charity work over the years. This essentially began for me as an artist since a young girl modeling, acting, and at The Fashion Institute of Technology and then throughout my career in Fashion, Art, Entertainment, and Media.


Above: Sonja is a proud supporter of NOH8

I know the saying “Love Hurts” but when Justice Anthony Kennedy wrote the majority opinion with the support of 4 other Judges he said “DOMA divests married same-sex couples of the duties and responsibilities that are an essential part of married life and that they in most cases would be honored to accept were DOMA not in force.”

Further Justice Kennedy said that the law “places same-sex couples in an unstable position of being in a second-tier marriage.”

No one should be treated second-tier in America. No one. Love heals. Love does not hurt. Love makes us stronger and that makes our country stronger.

Justice Kennedy went on to say “Under DOMA, same-sex married couples have their lives burdened, by reason of government decree, in visible and public ways,”

No one in America should be singled out. It’s humiliating. Have we not learned our lessons from the past? We are equal.

I learned more about this and how it feels among same sex couples when I became involved with MENY (Marriage Equality NY). I recieved a call from Brian Silva asking me to get involved and I gladly did and spoke at the MENY March to Brooklyn alongside other supporters.


Above: Sonja expresses her wish to help prepare the Beekman Boys nuptials in Star Magazine

I personally felt the pain in the community for too long. I really thought NY had missed the memo when all these other states were ahead of us. I knew if Governor Andrew Cuomo and Mayor Michael Bloomberg got on board with the support of some important friends of the community such as Caroline Kennedy who was the 100,000 signer of a protest that the rest of the Nation would take notice. I was very proud of our Country when President Obama came forward after MENY passed. Proud indeed and I got up and spoke about it at an Off Broadway Pride Event.

We are headed in the right direction and our Country still stands far above all because we stand for freedom and independence. Now, can we can talk about our children and instilling future independence? My umbrella of charities has been for decades and remains Children, Artists, Animals, and the LGBT.